Growing Sexually Step By Step

From Bluetruth

She Sucks Me into Love

We were in the kitchen. I was standing near the counter and she was sitting at the kitchen table. She began eyeing my crotch with snake eyes and smile. I walked toward her. She unzipped my pants and began mouthing my penis.

She was really into it. She sucked and sucked, looking up into my eyes, slurping and gulping. Her hair fell in her face as she slid closer to me, taking me completely down her throat. She was ravenous, snorting and gasping as she swallowed me whole.

She began furiously pumping me in and out of her mouth. I was feeling intense pleasure, my hard-on blazing, my whole body seared by shards of yes. I could also feel her. I could feel her desire. I could feel her energy building, moving like light through her veins.

I felt into her, as if I were moving through her body, pervading her every cell with love, breathing her entire body with my breath, and feeling her emotions with my heart. Combining my love, breath, and feeling with hers, I opened with her as one edgeless oh.

But then I noticed that my feeling had stopped short. I was luxuriating in the intense pleasure of love, light, and energy. Here I was, snuffled in our bliss, as we were dying. I saw the wrinkles of age forming around her beautiful lips. Slowly, her face transmogrified into an old, haggard woman, gumming the withered appendage of my destined self. I was seeing the movie of our life at superfast speed, she and I growing old, everyone growing old, losing everything, our bodies and minds and parents and children and friends deteriorating, disappearing, gone forever.

As I felt this quickness of life—fragile, wrought with moments of pleasure and miles of pain—my heart opened more fully. I relaxed into the sacrifice that is life. I was alive as love—why not? Why not give myself completely in love as I live and change and die?

And so, through her, I gave my unbridled love. Her whole body seemed to open more. Still sitting on the kitchen chair, her legs began spreading and coming together like frantic butterfly wings, and tears began to stream down her cheeks as she kissed and mouthed me. We were dying, in love. We were a living sacrifice in love.

I felt how God is alive as us: an infinite fire a few licks of which undulate as our bodies and minds. We quivered as those waves, temporary, tragic, blissfully evanescent, as our edges whitened and flashed gone. She began to come in waves of orgasmic sobbing, even as she continued sucking.

Her body was vibrating and convulsing as she looked into my eyes. Through her eyes I felt the love-fire that moves the world, that lives all beings as they spark and shine and come to ash. I felt through our sexing, through our bodies, through our loving, until only love was lucently obvious. Love burned as the only light. Our sacrifice had come to One.

Eventually, she released me and slid off the chair onto the floor, shaking, weeping, smiling, her hands splayed wide open, our eyes vulnerable in the ageless vision of love.

Three Steps of Communion

There are three basic steps to converting conventional sexuality into a means of communion.

1. Feel your own sensations fully

Whatever you are feeling, feel it completely. Feel the sensations on your skin and the energy moving through your body. Feel your emotions and thoughts come and go, without adding anything to their natural flow. Feel your body, mind, and emotions completely and without distraction.

2. Feel into your lover’s sensations fully

Feel through your own sensations, and feel into your lover fully. Feel your lover’s breath. Feel the energy moving through your lover’s body. Feel what your lover is feeling on every surface of his or her skin, mouth, vagina, penis, anus, and even between his or her toes. Feel your lover’s heart, emotions, and desires. This takes practice, but eventually you will be able to feel your lover’s entire body, emotions, and energy almost as clearly as you can feel your own.

3. Feel through your lover into the divine

Feel even through your partner’s sensations, feeling beyond them, until you can feel the nature of feeling itself. This isn’t about trying to understand something intellectually, but is actually a matter of feeling, like when you feel the soul of a great musician through his or her music—you don’t just hear the music, but commune with a quality that lies through and beyond every note and pause.

Feeling through your own sensations, feeling through your partner’s sensations, you become aware of the spacious quality of feeling itself. Within this spaciousness all things transpire. Every thought moves. Your lover’s flesh glistens. Sweet and sour tastes fleet. Every itch and dread and succulent delectation is self-manifesting, spontaneous, evanescent, and alive. Glorious yet gone as it arises. Full yet empty.

You’ll know when you are feeling through experience in this way, sexual and otherwise, because you will cease adding tension, fear, or closure to the present moment that is openness itself. Sex will drop through the hole of the moment suffused as the oneness it is trying to achieve. All urgency for sensation and pleasure will be reversed in a bodily utterance of fullness. The moment will consume itself in love and the remainder stands without time.

For Him

What Is Spiritual Growth?

You can change yourself a little bit, but for the rest of your life you will remain pretty much as you are, whether red headed and short tempered or tall and anxious. You can diet and lose weight, work out and gain muscle, cut your hair or grow a beard, but your friends will probably still recognize you; the changes you create in the way you look are small compared to how much you stay the same. You are stuck with yourself more or less as you are. Whatever your characteristics of mind and body, they won’t change too much no matter what you do.

No matter how much therapy you do or how many years you meditate, your personality and thinking patterns remain more or less as they are, as recognizable as your face. Sometimes a traumatic event may occur in life that severely alters your body or personality, but more often the friends you meet at your 30-year high school reunion will recognize an older version of the same character you were in high school.

Up to a certain point in our lives, growth is based on changes in our bodies and minds. As children we grew taller and eventually sprouted pubic hair. As young adults we learned skills to earn a livelihood. Perhaps we went to college and studied French, Shakespeare, or accounting. It’s easy to understand why many people think that spiritual growth is based on changes of the body and mind; that’s the kind of growth most of us have experienced so far.

However, spiritual growth is not based on changes in your body, mind, or personality. Your brown eyes don’t need to become blue in order for you to see God. If you enjoy opera and fine cigars now, you probably will continue to enjoy them as you grow spiritually. Your sexual fantasies—which are likely to be pretty much the same now as they were when you were sixteen years old, though perhaps less intense and less frequent—won’t change too much, either. If you have a taste for blonde women with large breasts now, you probably will have the same taste if you became enlightened. Spiritual growth involves recognizing deeper aspects of who you are, not changing the surfaces (although the surfaces may change somewhat as a result).

When Life Loses Its Meaning

As a child, your attention was occupied, say, with toy trucks and tree houses. As a teenager, your attention, freed from toys, became obsessed with girls and cars. As an adult you are probably preoccupied with earning a living and perhaps caring for a family.

You may still play with toys occasionally, though they are probably bigger and faster than your childhood playthings. You may still be turned on by fine cars and young girls, but a good portion of your attention has moved on to other things. Toys, cars, and girls seem somewhat more trivial than when they constituted the entire world of your youth.

What constitutes your world now? What are you concerned about? What are the objects that now bind your attention? Money, career, a social cause, a mistress, TV, your family? As long as these things are fulfilling, there is no problem. Life seems good, or at least good enough.

As an adolescent, hormonal changes freed your attention from toys so you could invest it in girls. As an adult, spiritual changes can free your attention in the same way. As you continue to grow spiritually—and everybody does, at their own pace—sooner or later the things you have invested your life in seem empty and trivial. They no longer give you the fulfillment that they once did.

This can be horrifying. You may be in the middle of a great marriage, surrounded by glorious children, succeeding at your chosen career, and whammo! Suddenly you lose interest in the whole damn thing. You find yourself going through the motions without wholehearted enthusiasm. The same thing can happen in the midst of a life committed to social activism or religious pursuit. Suddenly you feel done. Ready to move on. But you don’t know where. And the baggage you’ve accumulated can be immense.

Deepening Your Attention

The good news is this: Where to go is deeper into the bliss of your very being, and you don’t need to change your relationship, family, or career to do so (although they will be imbued with new depth as you grow, possibly changing as a result). The bad news is that spiritual growth, while deepening your consciousness and bliss, can be as painful and difficult as growing your body through adolescence or your mind through medical school.

Teenage growth is mostly driven by physical changes. Growth as a young adult is mostly based on developing your mental capacities. Spiritual growth depends upon cultivating your depth of attention or awareness, in spite of the condition of your body and mind.

You can be a marathon runner or confined to a wheelchair; you can be well-versed in Shakespeare or barely literate; you can be homosexual, heterosexual, celibate, or polygamous; you grow spiritually when your attention is no longer bound to its present objects—money, women, thoughts, desires—and is free to relax more deeply into its source, the very openness of being.

To Which Objects Do You Cling?

When you are in deep sleep and begin to awaken, if you are very sensitive you can feel attention come out of a silent, deep consciousness and become enmeshed in a world of objects, including the thoughts, feelings, and relationships that you call your life. Out of the blissful nothing of deep sleep, suddenly you are aware of—and absorbed in—whatever world reflects your current hopes and fears.

As an infant, you emerged from sleep into a world consisting of breast or bottle. As a teenager, you woke up with a hard-on and thoughts of what the school day would bring. As an adult, your morning attention becomes immediately bound to noises coming from your children’s room or to your work schedule for the day.

Even now, your attention is still occasionally wrapped up in objects like breasts, hard-ons, and perhaps school. But you are no longer entirely locked into these objects; your attention is more free and has grown wider and deeper: wider because it takes into account so much more than it used to as a child; deeper because your understanding of what these objects mean has grown. You know deeper suffering and deeper joy than you did when you were younger, so certain things—dolls, toy trucks, The Beatles, financial victory—don’t mean as much as they used to, though you may still enjoy them. Now, other aspects of life seem more meaningful.

How Do You Grow Spiritually?

Just as age developed your body and school developed your mind, spiritual practices develop your depth. You grow spiritually by letting go of your attachment to certain objects, which happens naturally, and then relaxing your attention more deeply into its source, the openness of being. This development of attention from superficial to deep can be practiced in many ways, including prayer, devotional contemplation, meditation, and studying scripture.

Since so much of our attention is tightly bound by our sexual hopes, fears, and desires, our sexual life is usually one of the last parts of us to grow spiritually, no matter how much we meditate or pray. But at some point we realize that sex isn’t all we hoped it would be—we suffer because our sex life is not satisfying. It might have seemed satisfying yesterday, or ten years ago, but it is not now. Just as we may find our career or relationship suddenly unfulfilling, we may naturally become frustrated or even bored with our sex life; though perhaps still physically pleasurable, sex begins to feel empty. And this is a sign of growth.

Our culture only supports growth up to a certain stage. We are allowed to liberate our attention from childhood and adolescent concerns, but then we are supposed to be satisfied by occupying our attention with adult concerns of money, family, sex, sports, and affection, with a little bit of social do-goodery, artistic appreciation, and religious belief thrown in. But when we grow beyond these objects of concern—when they no longer interest us—our modern culture offers very little advice beyond therapy, TV, drugs, divorce, changing careers, and trying to search for meaning in the world.

Meaning is not to be found in the world, but in the depth of being, which then recasts the world in a new light. When your family and career no longer fulfill you as they once did, don’t leave them. If your lack of fulfillment is due to spiritual growth, a change in family or career will make absolutely no difference in how deeply you are fulfilled. Your only true choice is to go deeper: relax as the openness of deep being, even while you continue to skillfully deal with the things of your life.

From Superficial to Deep Sex

It’s best to regularly practice spiritual deepening in a formal and undistracted situation such as meditation. But ultimately you can practice this deepening in every situation, and especially those situations that most bind your attention, the places in which you get most caught up. From your teens throughout middle life, sex is one of these places. Your attention—and the energy of your life, which follows your attention—is distracted by and absorbed in sex. Not just sexual intercourse, but the whole sexual world: relationship, love, lust, orgasm, rejection, fantasy, need, masculine push, feminine pull, the whole whopping, fantastic mess, in your bed, at work, at home, on the street, and in your head.

Feeling through your sexual experience is a way to liberate your attention from sexual objects and feel more deeply into the source of attention, which will reveal itself little by little as you practice. Enjoy the hot, wet friction on your penis as much as you want; just feel through the sensation as you do so. Argue with your woman until you are red in the face, all the time feeling through the waves of emotional intensity. With practice, you can feel into the deeper openness and profound bliss of sex instead of being bound merely to its superficial sensations and emotions.

Until you discover the depths of sex for yourself, whatever anybody says about it will seem meaningless to you. You will settle for great orgasms, a decent emotional connection, and fine tits and ass for as long as they fulfill you. You shouldn’t even try to make sex deeper until the best oral sex you’ve ever had feels like suffering. Physically it may feel great, but something is missing. It feels superficial, trivial, unsatisfying, like your favorite toy from childhood would now feel to you.

At this point, you will naturally be inclined to feel through your sexual sensations and emotions since they don’t fulfill you much anyway. Don’t stop having sex. Continue doing all your usual sexual activities with your lover, but do them with deeper awareness. Practice feeling through your most physically pleasurable sexual moments, as well as your most dissatisfying ones, relaxing as the openness of deep being, again and again.

In this way, your attention is liberated into a deeper bliss of being, an openness of consciousness in which you abide even now, but which you don’t tend to notice because your attention is bound by more superficial objects. Currently, the bliss of boundless consciousness may be less interesting to you than sex—just as in childhood, sex was less interesting to you than toys. Sooner or later, though, everybody grows up. Your need will deepen. As a practice, meet every moment of unfulfillment as a call to feel through the present objects of attention and relax more fully as the openness of deep being, who you are in truth.

For Her

The Masculine Sexual Essence

How can you account for the differences in the way that men and women seem to approach intimacy and daily life? These differences can be interpreted from many perspectives: Men and women are different genetically. They are exposed to different hormones as embryos. They are treated differently as children. Social expectations influence men and women differently. All of these influences, as well as others, are very real. Yet one of the biggest influences, one that is often overlooked, is whether a person has a masculine or feminine sexual essence.

As described in Intimate Communion, the gender of your body and your sexual essence need not coincide. For instance, about 10% of women (and 80% of men) have a masculine sexual essence. These women enjoy challenge and competition more than sensuality and intimacy. At the movies, they get more emotionally involved in an action adventure than a love story. They would prefer to quickly scarf down their food and get back to work than relish an evening of intimate conversation with champagne, candlelight, and fine cuisine. They would more often prefer to take charge and ravish their lover than surrender and be ravished by their lover.

Ultimately, the divine is One, but manifests as two: masculine and feminine divinity, or consciousness and light. A person with a masculine sexual essence identifies with the freedom of consciousness. If you are such a person, nothing matters more to you than the struggle to feel free. Your mission toward freedom—financial, artistic, political, or spiritual—is your day-to-day priority, and your desire for love comes in second. A good relationship is meaningless to you if you aren’t on purpose in your life. However, if you are living true to your deep purpose, then your consciousness is undivided, and it shows through your body as presence. If you are on purpose and therefore free in your consciousness, you are also very present, which is sexy.

Why Money Is Sexy

Generally speaking, the more someone is clear in their priorities and able to stay consistently on purpose, the more money they are able to earn. This is why money is sexy: money is a stepped-down version of free masculine consciousness, and every woman feels this. A man who is wealthy, full of humor, and very present is sexy. These qualities—wealth, humor, and presence—reflect different levels of the attainment of free consciousness; a person with these qualities is sexy to you if you have a feminine sexual essence.

The Feminine Sexual Essence

If you are a person who has a feminine sexual essence (about 80% of women and 10% of men), then you identify with the light of divine love (rather than freedom of divine consciousness). You want to be seen. You want to feel radiant. You want your hair, eyes, and skin to glow, but mostly you want your heart to shine. That is, you want to give and receive love. Love is the way light feels. When you are truly loving, your inner light shines as a perceptible radiance regardless of your age, and this radiant love flows from your heart as an expression of the feminine divine.

Just as freedom fulfills the masculine essence, love fulfills the feminine. Whereas a truly free and conscious man is full of presence and purpose, a truly open and loving woman flows with the love-force of the universe. She is full of intuition, life, and light. She graciously radiates love-energy. Divinely radiant women attract and are attracted to men who are divinely conscious.

Beauty Attracts Wealth

Feminine radiance and masculine consciousness are attracted to each other at every level. At a superficial level, this is why physical beauty and financial wealth are so often found attracted to one another. A physically radiant woman can almost always attract a wealthy man, and a wealthy man can almost always find a physically radiant woman to marry.

At a more profound level, a woman whose awesome radiance is founded in divine love is attractive to and attracted by a man whose unwavering presence is founded in divine freedom. A superficial but wealthy man doesn’t interest her as much as a man of profound depth, humor, and free consciousness—and if he is wealthy too, so much the better!

You know how powerful your radiance is. You can turn it on and wrap a man around your little finger with it. Men are suckers for a woman’s radiance. The more her radiance shines, the more a man is willing to do for her and the more his consciousness is attracted into her. Some women are born with great physical beauty just as some men are born with wealth. This kind of attractiveness is genuine, but relatively superficial. Eventually a woman’s body ages and withers, and a wealthy man who never develops depth loses his charm real fast.

Feminine Spiritual Growth

Genetics and social conditioning certainly cause many of the differences between men and women. But spiritual causes—the differences between the masculine and feminine sexual essence—must also be comprehended so men and women can understand how to grow spiritually as well as biologically and socially.

As you grow spiritually, your feminine sexual essence identifies with more profound depths of love-light. In your feminine youth, you probably spent substantial time beholding yourself in the mirror, learning to brighten your eyes with various shades of eye shadow, trying on different earrings and outfits to see how they affected your flow of radiance. Little girls—if they have a feminine essence—don’t have to be forced to play with makeup, jewelry, and clothing, as many mothers can attest.

Playing with dolls and makeup as a young girl is the beginning of your spiritual growth as a woman. You learn how to cultivate love and energy. Caring for your doll is the beginning of learning how to open your heart—regardless of your mood—and embrace the world in love. Looking at yourself in a mirror and feeling the difference between what a red skirt and a blue skirt “does for you” is the beginning of learning how to feel subtle flows and work intuitively with energy, how to heal, enliven, and bless the world with your bodily expressed love-radiance.

Do You Feel Attractive?

In your heart, you know that you are love-light. You know that you have the power to bless others with your love-light by shining energy through your body. You want your radiance felt and acknowledged. Therefore, a big part of your sexuality is about feeling attractive.

Nothing is more important to the feminine than love, which shines through the heart as light, through the body as radiance, and through relationships as care. Your sexual essence is always shining, though surrounding your essence may be all kinds of physical blocks, emotional resistances, and psychological kinks that can limit your shine. Sex is one place where you discover just how open your body and heart are. As you make love, do you shine as the bliss of love-light? Or, do you close your body and heart to some degree, allowing less of your radiance to shine, denying energy and joy to yourself, your lover, and the world—and then doubting your self-worth?

As a teenager, you were probably obsessed about your physical appearance; what was most important to you was how others saw you. If you grew beyond this level of feminine concern, then, as a young adult, you began to affirm your own radiance; what was most important to you was how you saw and felt about yourself. If you grow from this level of self-concern into an even greater fullness of feminine expression, your concern is with the light of love itself: “How surrendered am I as the light of love which shines through the heart of everyone and through my body to all others?”

How Feminine Love-Light Grows

Learning how to dress and put on makeup is a full-fledged feminine art. Most women in our culture participate in this art to a greater or lesser degree. Some women master it, others only dabble, but most women spend a significant amount of time concerned about and adorning their appearance, becoming artists of energy (“Does this or that earring make me feel better?”) and of light (“What color blouse brings out the shine in my eyes today?”).

Eventually, as you grow, this kind of concern begins to feel superficial. Some modern women have chosen to jettison the feminine art of light altogether when they grow beyond this level of concern. But as you grow spiritually, your feminine art and mastery can deepen. In addition to superficial energy play (“Plaid or solid?”) you learn to intuit and move energy more deeply.

Through the arts of dance, yoga, massage, and many others, you can develop the same kind of expertise you have with clothes, but with your internal energy flow itself (as well as with that of others). You can learn how to breathe and move so that your body opens to your deep flow of love-energy, and thus your radiance grows. As your bodily obstructions are released, the love-light in your heart is able to shine more and more through your entire body as a blessing force in the world, regardless of your age.

Your intuition and radiance of divine love-light grows deeper as you learn to feel, breathe, and surrender more fully. Is there a subtle tension in your heart? Are you guarding your heart, hiding the depth of your love, disregarding your ever-present yearning to give and receive deep love? The deepest form of feminine beauty is love itself, shining freely from the heart, radiating through the body and into the world, unobstructed and unguarded.

Our culture doesn’t often support this depth of energy: Your mother probably spent more time teaching you how to dress than how to love. She probably talked more about how you should do your hair than how you should breathe in order for your energy to move blissfully through your body and enlighten the hearts of others. You and your lover have probably reached adulthood with very few hints about how to grow spiritually and sexually.

The Feminine Crisis

At their deepest level, feminine love and masculine freedom are one openness of being. Nevertheless, the feminine and masculine journeys of growth unfold quite differently. The feminine sexual essence identifies with the love-light of openness, “Am I radiantly beautiful? Am I loved and loving?” The masculine sexual essence identifies with the freedom of openness, “What is my purpose? Am I successful and free?” Spiritual growth, for women and men, is about growing from superficial to deeper levels of these identities.

Feminine spiritual practice involves surrendering as and expressing the deepest light and love that flow through your heart, devoting your body to dancing love’s dance, breathing love’s bliss, and radiating love’s light, moment by moment, regardless of how good or bad you feel. You don’t need to deny your emotional ups and downs or your physical pains while you practice being love in their midst.

Your body is going to rot, no doubt. Sooner or later—usually sooner than you hope—you will look in the mirror, see your wrinkles, gray, and flab, and your heart will sink. This is the equivalent of a man’s mid-life crisis, when his family life or career suddenly seems empty to him. The masculine part of you can experience the same mid-life crisis that a man does. But the feminine part of you goes through a very different kind of crisis, not of purpose but of light: “Am I still radiant?”

Because the feeling of light is love, when you doubt your radiance, your heart doubts love—unless you are able to grow in feminine depth. This requires learning to identify more with the radiance that shines from your heart through your body, rather than identifying with the superficial shine inherent to youthful flesh.

At a certain age in middle life, it is entirely natural for you to feel like your body is “betraying” you. Once you have learned how to cultivate physical radiance through dress, makeup, jewelry, and the sensual sashay of a feminine body, you have made your youth obsolete. Your young body—which is naturally radiant with energy—has served its purpose for the sake of your spiritual maturation. It is now time for you to continue growing and deepen your feminine art of love-light.

Your Embodiment of Light

Locate the love in your heart and practice shining it through your body. Allow the full spectrum, the entire rainbow, of love-energy to flow through your body. What might this practice look like in relationship with your lover? While making love, you can practice giving him the energy of a mother, your body transmitting nurturing and comforting love. You can give him the energy of a wild animal, your body transmitting love through untamed, dangerous, bestial force. You can give him the energy of a whore, your body transmitting love-energy in its slutty, lusty, dark form.

If your body is resistant to flowing with some aspect of feminine energy, then you will limit the force of love that can shine from your heart; you will weaken yourself. Practice flowing with the energy of love that you most resist. If you are comfortable giving tender motherly love but resistant to humping your man like a drunken slut, then you have more to learn in the art of transmitting love and light. If you have a feminine essence, then you grow spiritually by learning how to let every shade of love-energy flow from the depths of your heart to the tips of your tongue, fingers, nipples, and toes, into and through all of your relationships.

Spiritual growth means growing in your capacity to incarnate love and light. Your body learns to flow with the entire spectrum of love-energy, savage and pristine, motherly and witch-like, bitchy and saintly. Ultimately, your love embraces the whole universe, the entire display of energies, every possible form. To love this big, you must be willing to feel every possible emotion, allowing your body to flow with every possible energy, whether you like it or not.

You Will Meet in Others What You Won’t Embrace in Yourself

Whatever energies you are unwilling to incarnate in your own body you will also resist in others. Your very resistance will attract these energies into your life so you can learn to embrace the whole spectrum in love. For instance, if you are resistant to being uninhibitedly happy and sexy in every inch of your body, you will despise women who you think are bimbos, and thus attract them into your life. If you deny your own power to influence others through your energy, then you will disdain women who you think are manipulative, and thus attract them into your life. Until you learn to be love in every shade and color, you will attract others with the energies you most resist.

Loving Through Intense Emotions

To grow spiritually, learn to embrace and express every energy in love. Your body grows in its capacity to give and receive every kind of light, beautiful and ugly, cosmic and infantile, pastel and dark red. To open yourself like this takes practice. It is easy to practice surrendering as love in the forms you find comfortable: your man massages your back, fixes you dinner, and then ties you to the bed with velvet ribbons in order to torture you with his tongue—you can probably handle that. But when you are angry—your man lies to you about something important—can you allow the energy of rage to flow through every cell of your body and at the same time keep your heart open to his heart?

Practice love especially during intense emotions. Can you feel your anger and also stay with your man heart-to-heart, feeling the depth of love and yearning that churn in both of you? Can you breathe love—inhaling and exhaling love as if it was air—while also shouting at your man, demanding his integrity, tolerating nothing less than what you know is true of him?

It may take years to learn the art of magnifying your physical radiance with makeup and jewelry. Likewise, it takes time to develop your capacity to shine love through all the shades of emotional intensity. Ultimately, your body learns to incarnate every form of energy in the universe while your heart remains open to shine the radiance of love with every breath.

Once your body and heart have learned to remain open, then you can practice relaxing as light itself, as the very love that you are, the deep bliss of being. As you learn to surrender, you also learn to trust this force of love that lives as you, beating your heart, moving your limbs, speaking your words, flexing your vagina, and beheading any fool who stands in the way of love.